Patience, Rationality and a Good Heart

“The key is patience, rationality, and making sure you remember most people are good-hearted.”
This is something I told a co-worker and friend nearly a year ago. She wrote it down and kept it with her. I’m deeply honored that I could have an impact on her life. I wanted to share this note today in the hopes that it’ll help someone else. It certainly has helped me to take the time to reflect and to believe in the best in that humanity has to offer. Update: There were some very thoughtful reactions to my quote on my Google+ page, and I wanted to share a few of them with all of you.
– “It is hard to remember that people who seem mean spirited are often trying hard to do the right thing. They may be even grieving they are treating us so badly. It’s probably not so much that they are eager to hurt us as they are to effect the outcome they think should in fact occur. That patience part you mention. Hooo boy that’s a tough one.” ~ Jesse Francis – “I don’t actually buy that thing about most people being good-hearted, but I do try to remember that most people aren’t 100% evil, and that often when people behave or speak in a way that is hurtful to others, it’s as a result of them having been hurt themselves.” ~ Meirav Berale – “‘People are not hurt by things, but by the view they take of things.’ No one is good-hearted; your judgment of people is good-hearted. No one is evil, except that your judgment of them is evil.” ~ John Castle
  • http://FundraisingCoach.com marcapitman

    So true. 

    It can be VERY hard to remember at times, but life is much more fulfilling operating from this stance!

  • http://twitter.com/tsfardea meirav berale

    patience and rationality – yes.
    I don’t actually buy that thing about most people being good-hearted, but I do try to remember that most people aren’t 100% evil, and that often when people behave or speak in a way that is hurtful to others, it’s as a result of them having been hurt themselves.

  • Emily Thorne

    Very insightful and wise.  It would be great on a billboard so more people can ponder it.

  • http://sagoyism.blogspot.com/ josh sarz

    Nice blog. A good way to start my morning.

  • http://philiptiongson.typepad.com/ Tee Yong Son

    I would emulate your colleague and I will write this down too and paste it right in front of my cube.  Thanks for sharing!

  • kim

    I wish I felt this way about whomever keyed my car and stole its emblem off my trunk today but I’m pretty sure they’re just evil.